My children were only ages 6, 4 and 2 when their dad and I separated. After a year of counseling and mediation, we divorced. Twenty years later, my divorce is still something I don’t talk about very often. What is important to share is how important it was to shift from focusing on the issues my ex-husband and I had as a couple, to making sure we stayed partners raising our children.
As divorced or separated parents, we don’t always realize the amount of pain a child feels – no matter what their age. Recently, we were contacted by a volunteer who works with homeschool students. One of the students shared his feelings about divorce and how he sometimes felt caught in the middle. This student happened to find our Nebraska Extension resources on-line and wanted to share something he also had found helpful especially from the child’s perspective: “When a Child of Divorce Visits Parents: Think of the Child” (here’s the **link ).
Nebraska Extension offers programs and resources for families who are going through a divorce, custody modification or paternity proceedings. Co-Parenting for Successful Kids is a class focusing on helping parents understand the impact on their children and provide concrete steps parents can take to help their children succeed through the process. These classes are held throughout Nebraska and are available on-line. If you live outside of Nebraska, contact your local extension office to see if there are similar programs in your state.
Here are some links to Nebraska Extension Resources you may find helpful or would like to share:
- Resources for Divorcing Families – Nebraska Extension in Lancaster County
- “I” Messages for Co-Parents: A More Peaceful Way of Communicating: Available in English | Spanish – Español
- Parenting Plans for Separating or Divorcing Parents
- Divorce, Children & Stepfamilies – Nebraska Extension
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